
Hiking in Jemez Springs - Photo Credit: Garrett Allen
I celebrated my 33rd birthday this week. Birthdays have a tendency to make me quiet and reflective as I look back at the year's events. It's been a huge year. I relocated to Albuquerque from the East Coast to work with American Clay. I've battled (and beaten!) some health problems for the first time in my (largely healthy) life. I have done quite a bit of traveling and exploration. I've made a lot of friends in my new home, and have an active social life.
This year feels very different from several in my recent memory. A year ago, two years ago, four years ago (you get the idea), I was a workaholic. That's not atypical of a young professional living in a busy, urban area. My Type A personality lends itself easily to working all the time, and my helpfulness often results in me spreading myself thin for causes I believe in. It's a common question when I meet someone new here in the desert, "So, how do you like living in Albuquerque?" This question inevitably garners a chuckle before I respond - I feel like a completely different person living here, almost as if I was plucked out of the DC Metro area by a witness relocation program and placed somewhere with strict instructions to leave behind everything I knew, including my workaholic tendencies.
I talk with many of you on the phone, and I've noticed some familiar patterns. There are those who accept work with almost every client who approaches them, largely because their business needs the money and they feel nervous to turn it down. Some of you work whenever you can, which translates into 7 days a week for months (and in some cases, years!) on end. There's very little free time, no vacations, stress, weariness...I recognize it well. Some folks manage it better than others. I just remember how exhausted I felt almost all the time, so I can't help but wonder how all of you are faring under the conditions of the current economy.
My friends, Phil and Jennifer, visited this week on their way across the country for vacation, and they observed that I look happier than they've ever seen me. This is the first time in my life that I've opted not to work a ton of overtime, not to take on additional part-time work, and not to volunteer myself too much. It still feels foreign and nerve-wracking, as if I'm endangering my welfare by choosing to enjoy my free time. As someone who has been laid off from work more than once, I have anxiety about the possibility that I may, once again, be put in a situation where I'm unable to take financial care of myself.
I can comfortably report, though, that over the course of reflection this birthday week, I think I may be living one of the best years of my life. The risky feeling of truly being "off" when I'm not working, and making that free time a priority, has resulted in greater richness than I've ever experienced. My time off work, it seems, has served to help me enjoy my time at American Clay much more. I've always recognized the importance of work life balance, but I think I've finally learned how to put it into practice. I'm still adjusting to this change, but overall, this has worked wonders for my physical, spiritual, and emotional health.
I would love to hear what makes a well-rounded life for our clients. How do all of you detach from work? What's your favorite way to spend free time? If you don't have much of it, how can you create more?